MANNERS FOR TODDLERS

TODDLERS  MANNERS

  I believe kids manners always start own home only, we the parents are the first teacher who shows and teaches manners in every single second. No Child born with the word ‘no’, not the nature of tantrum. We the first person who teaches them NO, the first mistake we do. We are the first one to teach them how to tell lies yes, right? It is true. Many times we said to our children if they do that I will give this if you do that I will take you that place if a phone call comes and your showing sign tells you are not there.

So I will not make it lengthy, I will be discuss point to point, basic is child behavior depends on how we behave with them, from the first, when they born we should always create positive energy, even they start screaming don’t say stop screaming, don’t scream, etc, instead, we should say please talk softy, lower your voice, etc. use positive words.

If you by mistake raise the hand, say sorry immediately.

Whenever they follow your order, say thank you.  Ok, let’s start our discussion.

You can start teaching your toddler good habits as soon as they are able to understand and communicate with you.  For most, this happens around 1 year, so this is a great time to start sculpting them into well-mannered and well-behaved children.

Here are a few habits I have started teaching when my son was 10 months old and he is picking them up very quickly.

Teaching Patience and Waiting Your Turn

This is a great technique I learned on Instagram from an OT Playing with Chanel. I taught it to my 14 month old son and within a couple days he was initiating it by himself without me even asking.

When your toddler wants something, most of the time they will fuss, reach, grab, or wave their hands wildly until they get it.  The waiting hands technique teaches them to keep their hands down and wait until you are ready to give it to them- and it really works!!

 I always used to say, wait for Mamma, I heard many moms who stay home alone after husband goes to the office, they share sometimes we keep open bathroom door and do pee/poo. Even I face the same problem with my first son, so this time I told him whenever I do some work or want to use the washroom I said  ‘mamma want to go to the bathroom you sit here and play, and wait for mamma, and keep talking from the bathroom. So they should also understand how we should not bother mamma or daddy.

Cleaning up after themselves

We’re picking up after our kids ALL DAY LONG.  Why not get them to help out a little?  I know you may think they are too young to help you and understand the concept of cleaning, but they do! As early as 8 months, babies love to put objects into containers.  Why not get them to use this skill for a purpose and have them put their toys back into the bins they belong in?

LET HIM ENJOY 

This is actually something my son picked up right away without me even teaching him, but just by watching mommy! He has seen me clean up after his spills he wants to imitate and copy everything I do. Even after giving him a bath in always keep everything back to stand immediately if do let him only give me those items and sign me keep its right place. 

Sometimes we forget to keep remote the right place but if he notices he come and put in its right place. So again manners start at home, if they saw you doing they will do, and he is only 18m.Now only he organizes my kitchen utensils, I don’t know how come he remember the right place, even my 1-year maid still did mistakes. He put clothes inside the washing machine, sometime after peeped, pant he only put inside machine.

Trust them is very important before teaching, I remember one day my husband try to print his some files, my son saw what father doing, so he came and take immediately paper from the printer, which just printed. I shout, said daddy work, but he let him do, he will waste one page but he will learn, trust me guys now pulling paper from the printer is an 18m old boy’s job.

Saying Yes instead of No

We try to reinforce positive behaviors with my son instead of punishing negative ones. I like to praise him for things that he should be doing, rather than constantly saying no and telling him what he shouldn’t be doing.  I like to use the word yes more often than no.

 

YOU CAN EAT HOW YOU COMFORTABLE

Of course, toddlers think they have free reign of everything and everywhere and do need to be told no once in a while.  So when we do, we say ‘no thank you’ instead of just yelling no.  

If he does say no, we will redirect him and form the question or command into something that will be more likely to get a yes response. For example, if we say, Go put your shoes on and he says no, we can change the phrase to, Do you want to go outside? Once he says yes, then say So get your shoes on.

TIME TO TRY MOMMA GOGGLES 

Now we use this dialogue every day.

Sharing

A toddler’s little mind isn’t fully equipped to learn how to share yet because they are very ME-focused. They are only concerned with making themselves happy and satisfying their own needs. Teaching sharing early on is important so that your 1 year old can learn how to respect others and how to be a good friend and citizen.

Practice with your child to share their toys and their food, whether it be to you, a sibling, a pet, or another child. They won’t like it at first, but they will soon get the concept of sharing if you keep practicing.

And it’s also important when give you something accept it, maybe food, something take from the room, say thank you or appreciate it. Sometimes they grab you lipstick, perfume, etc don’t panic, fuss instead of that smile say you want to put perfume? ok give it to mamma, mamma help you, they put some and say ok done now keep it back to its place, good boy, thank you. Most of you might keep by mistake or sometimes nothing going happen with things but reacts unnecessarily. When we don’t share how they learn to share.

Here mention toddlers' manners and behavior. What just try to explain base cum basic, if base correct rest all fall in its place. Hope my explanation helps you. If you want to share your viewpoint please comment.   

IN The Bhagwat Geeta nicely mention, we parents always focus on characters, not in manners, so first manners. 

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